Seven Pre-Marital Questions to Ask
1. What are your expectations of marriage?
Couples who fail to discuss their expectation of marriage usually find themselves disappointed. The excitement of an engagement and planning a wedding always takes center stage. In turn, expectations are not communicated. Before the proposal, couples should have a serious talk, discuss their marriage expectations, and reach an amicable compromise.
2. What are your long-term goals?
For a marriage to succeed, couples should have common goals. Do you plan on having children? Will you live a simple life, or a life of luxury? As time passes, some couples find themselves heading in different directions.
3. How do you handle anger or disappointment?
Knowing how your future spouse reacts when angry is important. Many people stop talking or isolate themselves, and others respond violently. Throughout a courtship, some people are very careful and keep their true self hidden. Even if anger outbursts are controlled, previous behavior should be revealed. This way, you know exactly what you're dealing with, and you'll know how to respond in a situation.
4. What are your money habits?
Asking questions about your future spouse's credit score, income, and spending habits may seem intrusive. However, finance problems are cited as one of the top causes of marriage breakdowns. Therefore, having a clear picture of each other's assets and debts is imperative. While perfect credit and a sizeable income should not be expected, couples should be open and truthful. This alleviates any surprises, and couples can join forces and find a solution.
5. What is your medical history?
Has your spouse ever been tested for AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases? Due to fear or embarrassment, some people disclose information related to their medical history. They adhere to a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. Then again, your future spouse may have genuinely forgotten to bring up a health problem.
6. What types of entertainment do you like?
Believe it or not, but some spouses clash on entertainment choices. For example, the wife may enjoy going out or vacationing, while the husband prefers staying home. Before walking down the aisle, the couple must talk and reach an entertainment compromise that meets both their expectations.
7. What is your religious background?
Interfaith marriages are challenging. Couples usually find themselves worshipping different God's, celebrating different holidays, and adhering to dissimilar customs and traditions. Furthermore, deciding which faith to raise the children creates an extra headache.
